Why Men and Women Don’t Understand Each Other: How to Find a Common Code by Emanuele M. Barboni Dalla Costa

“Where there is feeling there can be no logic. That would be a paradox, wouldn’t it? This, in a nutshell, is why men and women do not understand each other. In reality, the ‘unspoken’ or ‘implied’ is the basis of communication, and therefore also of seduction and the maintenance of relationships”.

Why do men and women not understand each other? Why do conflicts and misunderstandings arise? Is it possible to generate more authentic and emotional connections with others?

In this short and valuable essay, the theme of the difficulty of communication between men and women is addressed. It contains techniques and solutions for finding a ‘common code’ between the two sexes: the holy grail of all success in the sentimental sphere.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Synopsis

WHY MEN AND WOMEN DON'T UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER: HOW TO FIND A COMMON CODE

Owls Are Not What They Seem

Leave no Room for Misunderstandings

The Meta-Message and the 'Unspoken': Nothing is As It Seems

Story of a Girl Terrorized by the Words 'I Love You

The Reason Men and Women Don't Understand Each Other

Men and Women Speak Different Languages

The Bad News is That You Are Already Communicating

Silences and Monosyllabic Messages

How I Turned an Introverted Girl into a Loudmouth

We only put up walls to defend ourselves

Just a Matter of Time

The Basics of Communication: Feedback

We are still today dominated by Primordial Impulses

Kindness is Revolution

Investment and Balance in Communication

The Power of Silence and Incompleteness

What matters is always what the other person understands.

APPENDIX

7 Ideal Features for Your Communication

Raising the bar (Paraphrase of Emotions)

Exercises in Emotional Paraphrasing

Do You Only Communicate With Silence and Anger?

Conflict Management in Relationships

Are You Dealing With an Introvert?

Interpreting Subtext in Communication

Why Men and Women Don't Understand Each Other: How to Find a Common Code

The Author